Yeah I thought that title would get your attention. Our culture is completely out of balance and I truly think that one of the things that would put it back in balance would be a new influx of you garden variety bully. You all know them , you probably have one in mind. Maybe he bullied you in school or you remember him bullying others. Now, before you write me off completely as a lunatic please hear me out.
There is a delicate ecosystem in human society. I think the movie American Sniper explained it very well. To paraphrase, there are wolves, these are the bullies, those who terrorize and feed on others to meet their own needs. They are predators and they intend to do harm. Then there are the sheep, the sheep are the helpless, the weaker ones, they are not strong in the physical sense and though they may have a lot to offer within the ecosystem they are almost defenseless. Then you have the sheep dog, the sheep dog is fiercely protective but not naturally violent. He is loyal and friendly and he is the one who maintains the balance of the ecosystem. Wolves may cause some minor problems but the Sheepdog will never let the wolf destroy the sheep. He may chase them or growl at them but he will not let them destroy the sheep. So the sheepdog allows the sheep to learn how to deal with wolves while still protecting them.
In the current environment we have done two things, we equate any show of strength or force as bullying. We often lump the sheepdogs in with the Wolves as dangerous beasts. We accuse them of wrongdoing when actually they were doing the right thing. They were stopping the wolves. We say, “How dare you bully the wolves!”
So in the absence of true sheep dogs we have replaced them with parents and shaming. We have started campaigns to stop the bullying. But it is now the parents who are fulfilling this important task for the kids instead of letting the kids learn how to live and function in a harsh world filled with wolves and bullies. Then they don’t know how to cope when someone disagrees with them, they create safe zones and they go viral on youtube for the tantrums they throw when they don’t get their way.
Bullying will never go away, it is part of our fallen nature. So in reality we don’t really have to bring back the bullies as much as we have to Train and empower the sheepdogs to protect the weaker ones and stand up to the bullies. This is how the world works and we are cheating our children and teaching them to rely on a system that can never protect them from all of the wolves in the world.